Friends can make or mar you. I have shared stories of friends who helped me when I was planning to come to North America 21 years ago. Without those friends, my journey would have been harder—perhaps even impossible. That is why it is critical to surround yourself with friends who respect you for who you are, see you as an equal partner in the relationship, and are never condescending . Friends who share their opinions or advice without insisting that their position is the only correct one. Friends who listen when you share your deepest concerns about an experience or relationship and do not judge you negatively—even when it is obvious you may be wrong—but instead offer guidance without force. Friends who repeatedly offer contrary advice when you are sharing a painful experience are not respecting you or your perspective. When you describe constant ill-treatment and express the need to leave an environment for the sake of your mental health , and all they ...