Akinbode's BLOG on Faith, Politics, Science, Engineering, Education and Health

  Our success in life is dependent on the relationships we build. The critical question is how do you approach a relationship, are you transactional or relational? You often hear the current POTUS say, "in our transaction with them", "they say beautiful things about us", "we gave them so much, now we have stopped because they did not say beautiful things about us", etc. A relationship built on "what can I get from you in return for what I do for you". This is common with rich people when they have money, they have many friends, when they do not have things to share again, even close friends desert them - they become a loner. Many marriages have fallen apart because they are transactional - when she is beautiful, she is my choice, when she grows wrinkles, I find me a new young beautiful one to replace her OR when he has money, he is mine, when he can no longer give the gifts, I find me another husband. Success in business or politics is often dete

The controversy that caused many so called preachers in Nigeria to throw caution to the wind and used the pulpit to spit fire baffles me - these are supposed to be men of the letter. Here is how the Bible instructs his disciples to react to criticism. If you cannot do this, you are not fit to stand and represent God on the pulpit. Luke 9: 53 - 55. Verse 55 says " But He turned and rebuked them, and said, “You do not know what manner of spirit you are of. " Here is the scripture that is often quoted by men to disarm their wives to get them to do so many untold stuff, including disobeying God. Ephesians 5:22, "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord." BUT Ephesians 5:21: "Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God." In a Christian marriage, submission is supposed to be mutual based on the scriptures men often quote to demand ABSOLUTE submission from their wives. Ephesians 5:21 actual defines what that submission should be - a submis

 There is always a positive side to every darkness. Since Donald Trump's Shithole statement about Africa, the profile of Africans in the West has been lifted, BLM is now accepted, many African Artists have received star status - Burna Boy, Tiwa Savage, Wale, etc; African fashion and dance are in vogue now and it is good time to be an African in the US in spite of all the nonsense racism that still permeates every facet of life here. Many more African movies are available on Netflix, and African dancing style is now very attractive to American pop stars like Diddy and Beyonce. Naomi Osaka, the newly crowned US Open Champion donned a beautiful African fabric and others have done so in the past. We know that Nigerians like their other African brothers (Ghanaian) are the most educated ethnic groups in the US, better educated on the average than Americans by as much as 100% (33% Americans vs 59% Nigerians with at least a college degree), better than Germans, Chinese, or Ko