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Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint...

Marriage is a marathon.. it is a journey of discovery. But for it to last, parties must continue to work on themselves, so that their partners can find good when they dig.


The foundation and the bricks of marriage should be trust, mutual respect, and empathy... I did not mention love because that seems to be nebulous these days... Love is what we should have towards fellow humans.. it should be natural in a marriage relationship... The other points I raised are the reason why many marriages fall apart and some stand the test of time.

If you are doing things that hurt your partner and you conclude that that is how you see things. You do not trust his or her decision. You humiliate him/her publicly for reasons best known to you. You do not listen to any correction because you were damaged before you got hooked and see every correction as a criticism of your imperfection - so you fight every time you are corrected... you do not value things that are important to him/her - his/her parents, siblings, career, and little things he/she cherishes. and you wonder why he/she seems to display diminished affection towards you.

You care less and are unperturbed by your partner's pain... He/she would have left before you know what hit you...

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