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Reciprocity, is this the way to practice love?

Many relationship have been soiled because of disappointment that one good favor was not returned.

I act based on love spurned by immediate need, not on expectation that you will reciprocate when it is my turn. If I gave you so much when you are in need, I do not expect the same level of support from you when I am in need if I am aware you are incapable; I expect my friends to act the same way, not to expect me to support them by a measure of how they supported me but based on their need and what I am able to provide at that point in time.

Giving (whatever it is) should be based according to ability and the present need, not reciprocity. Doing otherwise creates imbalance and place unnecessary pressure on relationship that eventually leads to animosity, contempt and break up.

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